I am doing awesome here myself. :) A bit bored but great nevertheless. It's been a very hectic and 'jumping snakes' kind of a semester I'd had concluded weeks ago. Like I alluded in my previous posts, it was a semester I was always going to do very badly due to the EURO 2012 and the Olympics and turns out, I was right. Well it wasn't that bad actually but lets just say that I got out alive by the skin of my very teeth. Thank goodness for that :) It's an addiction, I have to cure, football and sports in general. Well maybe not haha. They're a part of my life and getting rid of them would certainly leave a gaping chasm and we don't want that, do we?
Alright, recently I've read an article in the papers that made me really ponder about life. About who your true friends are. People who you can really count on or would even give your lives for. Do they exist or cease to exist today in a world where faith in humanity is rapidly decreasing everywhere? In human nature, it's not unusual to see the nice ones attracting loads of friends and the emphatic ones attracting loads of people who feel comfortable in confiding in them. But unfortunately, sometimes the "wrong" people are attracted too, for example people who take advantage of others, people who are sycophants, people who need human crutches and finally people who wallow in self-pity. This is where wisdom comes in, where we do not let others misuse and abuse our niceness and innocence and hurt ourselves and our families in its wake.
There is an often quoted proverb which states that you can please some of the people, some of the time, but you cannot please all of the people, all of the time. This probably originated about 2500 years ago where the famous Greek slave Aesop illustrated this gem in his fable,
The Miller, the Son and the Donkey.
The story is about a miller and his son who were driving their donkey to the market. First they met some girls who thought they were fools because they were not riding the donkey. So the father lifted his son onto the donkey and walked along by his side.
Next they met an old man who accused the son of not respecting his father and letting him walk. So red-faced with shame, the son got down and his father got onto the donkey's back.
Next they met an old man who accused the son of not respecting his father and letting him walk. So red-faced with shame, the son got down and his father got onto the donkey's back.
Then they met a group of young men who thought both the father and son should ride the donkey.
So the father lifted his son up, and the two of them rode along.
Finally they were stopped by a townsman who accused them of animal cruelty and the miller and his son got off the donkey, tied his legs together, slung him on a pole, and carried him on their shoulders.
When other passers-by saw this spectacle, they laughed so loudly that the donkey was frightened, broke free from the cords, fell off the pole into a river and drowned.
The moral of the story is, " He who tries to please everybody pleases nobody and often is the most lonely person". Strange but true. It is an age-old maxim that our greatest strength is also our greatest weakness and we will fail if we do not expand. Most people will certainly know what I mean. If you are too nice, people take advantage of you and will just trample and walk all over you. They don't care how you feel. They don't give a shit. Some will claim that they're your friends and they miss you and instead will proceed to make fun of you in a bad way and laugh at you, not to mention humiliating you in the public, not giving a damn to your feelings. They won't be there when you need them. They'll ignore you at all times and will only be there to back stab you with a great big dagger and to make fun,mockery or an embarrassment of you. And they say bad things or negatives about you behind your back. Even though you didn't do anything to deserve it. You won't know what hit you but you'll know one thing for sure, About who you could put your complete trust on.
Sadly, I had to experience this and trust me, it is certainly not one you will cherish. I'm a pretty sensitive guy so I get offended easily. God knows why I couldn't help it. I guess I was just brought up that way so yeah. And those experiences always put me into a pretty darn rotten mood which lasts for days. It's the main reason why I started hating people in general and reason why I became extremely paranoid when it comes to putting trust and faith into certain people I call friends or rather single-serving passengers. Some people and their shits sheesh! However, those memories you want to forget make you learn from your mistakes though. It tells you who your true friends are and who you should hang out with or avoid.
True friends are hard to come by these days and should you get them, cherish them with all your heart. By true friends I mean those who stick with you through thick and thin, those who celebrate your ups and share your downs and are there for you when you are going through a rotten patch, patting your shoulders vowing to bring you up again. True friends don't listen bad rumours about you and judge you based on them. True friends are certainly the ones who make you feel comfortable around them, make you feel happy and glad that you're living your life. True friends are also the ones who laugh with you, not laugh at you and will never make you feel humiliated or alienated in any way. They'll certainly never even dream of making fun of you in a disgusting or a bad way in public. They will be the ones to defend you or shield you from anything that might make you feel bad or sad. True friends never talk bad about you when you've turned your back and they certainly will put in good words for you, ignoring the negatives. And this one's my favourite- True friends are the ones who will insult you and call you with each and every offensive term there is and you respond back, smiling, with an even more offensive term. :) Hah it's true! And true friends are faithful, a trait which a dog defines if you ask me, and is a rarity in the cruel world today. I am truly glad I have a few of those around me and I'm extremely thankful for that.
I sounded like a broken record back there didn't I? :P But in some people's cases, it needs drumming in. People have to learn the simple fact that they can't please all the people all the time and put their unwavering trust in everyone. They have to learn to judge who their true friends are. People are not stupid. When they see an opportunity opening up, they're not gonna miss it. They'll take advantage and, thus wreck havoc. And some may never recover from the effect. Well that's all I'm gonna say. Sorry for sounding too sombre or dull this time round. It's just something I needed to emphasize because everywhere I see, people are falling apart because of misplaced trust and betrayal. I'll be back again, so do stick around :) Again wise up people. Do the right thing and stand up for your principles and people who are most important in your life. Let the fakers go. Find strength in yourselves. Friends come and go but life goes on. Again, do the right thing. You be the judge. :)
Stay safe and do spend time with your loved ones. Remember, tomorrow may never come. Be thankful to the Almighty that you're still living in one piece, without any diseases or sickness. God Bless. :)
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